How often have you bought an expensive gift for someone without thinking twice about it, but not afforded yourself one even if you really wanted it? Are you one of those people who live by the principle that “it’s okay for others but too expensive or too good for me”? I am just looking through some of my photos of me swimming with dolphins in Miami. What a wonderful experience and… I gave it to myself! With all my heart and love because I am worth it! Yet it has not always been like that…

Only a few years ago, I can still recall it, I was buying a hair dryer for a friend. I bought the best one I could for her, while for myself I settled on an alternative model that was half the price, even though I actually wanted the same one. Crazy, right? Do you also do this? You give a voucher for a sauna or a massage, an adventure, an object or an experience as a gift to someone that you would really like to have yourself, but suddenly become stingy when it comes to you? Because it is too expensive? Only the best for others, but not for you?

STOP this immediately. You are starving your inner self by failing to give love and attention to yourself — you are constantly telling yourself that you are not appreciated or worth it, and that others are more worthy than you! It’s time to make a change: next time you give a massage voucher to your friend as a gift, give one to yourself as well. In the same value, mind you, or even higher! Then take a look at your feelings. Do you feel great or are you tormented by guilt? If you feel guilty, ask yourself: why and where does this come from? This pattern of putting oneself last comes from our primary family and we took it over from our parents. Yet all such patterns can be overcome, which is why you should continue to work on yourself.

I have succeeded and you can too! Today, I don’t need an excuse to pamper myself with anything my heart desires. If it is ‘expensive’, I am even more grateful that I can afford it and that I have deliberately put money aside to make my wish come true. Special experiences and endeavours (travelling to different parts of the world, dolphins, painting on canvas...) are never forgotten and they enrich us. Yes, I have always had a desire to travel and, these days, I travel to different parts of the world for several months: Hawaii, Guatemala, Mexico, Belize, Peru, Miami… Soon I will be travelling to Bali for one month and I can’t wait :) I have always had a desire to paint on canvas but the art supplies seemed ‘too expensive’. Now I finally have them all at home and I can create with oils and glitters, from my heart and for my soul.

Starting today, it is your task to give yourself what your soul has been seeking for as long as you can remember. When you want to swim with dolphins, give yourself this gift. When you want to go for a walk, go. When you feel a strong desire to travel, say ‘yes’ and take that trip. When you want to go to a restaurant, just go. Because you are WORTH it! And when you learn how to accept gifts from yourself, you will find it easier to accept gifts from the Universe. You ARE the Universe! And you will be immersed in abundance.

Tina Puncer
Soulwork Therapist and Reality Shifter
Completion Process Practitioner

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Sonja from Slovenia: "Tina, first a big, big THANK YOU for your help. I have to tell you I feel great, although I still don’t understand how you could do this in such a short time. I hope this does not seem greedy, but there is something else we could take a look at. It's my self-esteem or fear of being evaluated by other people. When I am in company and I feel evaluating looks all over me (especially from people I don’t know, but also from my acquaintances), I can’t even have a cup of coffee because my hands start shaking and sometimes also my head (at least I think it does). Can we do something about this because it is really bothering me?"

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